Showing posts with label Passion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Passion. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 27, 2023

A Brother Asks: Does Sitting in the East Improve your Credibility?

 

A Brother Asks: I have a few questions.  Do you have a few minutes?

Coach:  Sure! What's up?

Brother: Have you sat in the East?

Coach: I have not sat in the East as a Worshipful Master, but I have many times as a guest, yes.

Brother: Does not ever sitting in the East, as in being a Worshipful Master for a Lodge, make one less credible when it comes to Masonic lectures or other Masonic ventures?

Coach:  That’s a great question!  Let’s get into it!

Brother: Yes, please!

Coach: It’s most unfortunately that there are some members of this fraternity who truly believe a Brother's credibility is next to nil until he is a Past Master... I am certainly & clearly not one of them!

Brother:  Yes, this I do understand. Is there a particular reason why you haven't traveled to the East?

Coach: Let me review them here for you with some background:

1)      I was in the Junior Warden position when I told the secretary I would not be continuing.

2)      I saw the writing on the walls when I realized that it was not something that interested my Masonic pursuits. 

3)      I realized too that I contribute much more doing what I do.

4)      That year our Lodge musician died that year and I stepped into that office soon thereafter and never looked back.

I’m glad that I moved in the direction that I did for my love is providing music and Masonic Light for Lodges where it is needed, wanted, and supported.

Brother: Thanks. That’s just what I needed to hear.

Coach:  Please keep this in mind: I had to consider many things in my choice.  If I had tied up more years of my life in getting into that Eastern Chair and then the year or two in that Chair, it would have taken time away from what I love - Masonic light!

Brother: Yes, I see that.

Coach: Although there are many hoops that one must jump through, thanks to specific Grand Lodge guidelines and requirements that are put in place by many Jurisdictions, sitting in the East can be done by anyone who gets pushed into that seat.  I have witnessed far too many who were pushed into the chair who hadn't a clue!

Brother: I agree and see it happening. Putting one through the chairs and not putting leaders in the chair is something I can't comprehend.

Coach: Sure, it’s a worthy seat; but only for those who desire it & who can provide the type of service that it requires. 

Brother: Ah!  Yes, this is true.

Coach: However, I know my strengths, passions, and desires.

Brother:  How’s that?

Coach: I’m by my nature an explorer & advisor, not a leader.  These are things that I have been offered and have embraced in my life.  And I have lost count over the years of the number of men & Masons that I have advised in those Eastern seats and beyond. This is what I have been blessed with and hence my choice.  And I have been rewarded a thousand fold for exercising them as I have.

Brother:  That much is clear.

Coach: There might be a time when I want to take a break and actually sit on the Eastern Chair, but I do not see that occurring anytime soon. So, why do you ask?

Brother:  That’s a fair enough question!  I’ll give you the brief version. I have some decisions that I need to make and you’ve been around long enough to see things a bit clearer than most; hence, my seeking of your opinion.

Coach: Is someone thinking about the East?

Brother: I was… but only for a hot minute…

Coach: LOL!  I totally understand!  Here’s something to consider: Sitting in the East is about running a Lodge with all that goes along with making new members, keeping the peace, and dealing with Lodge building headaches. It has NOTHING to do with Masonry as many members have come to understand & know it and everything to do with maintaining the Lodge building and its support organization, all while appeasing the Grand Lodge and its officers. You know, Freemasonry!  It’s a heck of a lot to take on and it's not what I joined for.  As I have said before, I joined the gym for the workout; not to run the place.

Brother: I completely understand. I just wanted to know how not going to the East will affect my credibility of doing lectures and other Masonic adventures that I'd like to start doing.

Coach:  Ah! I understand your concern. In my experience and observations of others in similar situations, I find the best credibility that any member can ever have is based solely upon this simple question: "Can I and do I deliver on my Word?"  When a member does deliver well, and does so consistently, only those with an evil agenda will cause them problems.  Those members who are based in the reality of "those who can best work and best agree" and on the merit of that good work will both support that member and what he offers in total, and they will also build a landing pad & host him in his efforts.

And, in this it should become abundantly clear to you that it's not any one position - chair or not! - that give a man or member credibility but the men in those positions that have give  credibility to those positions!

Brother:  That’s so true!

Coach: So, let's revisit your question.

Brother: Okay.

Coach:  Does Sitting in the East Improve anyone's Credibility?

Brother: Well, to be honest, no. The individual who sits in that chair will be provided with many opportunities to show how credible they are.  However, sitting in the chair, just like being in any position, doesn't improve that man's credibility. It only reveals the credibility he already has.  

Coach: I have to agree.  Now, if you're looking to pursue any Grand Lodge officerships, then the issue of that Eastern chair needs to be put to rest.  In this specific case, sitting in the East does not effect your credibility; it effects your eligibility. But that's an entirely different conversation!


 

 

Saturday, June 3, 2023

A Brother Asks: How do you KEEP members coming back?

 
 
A Brother Asks: I’m curious if anyone you've talked with has tried to manifest members.

Coach: Far too many to recall here.

Brother: I keep hearing about our numbers dwindling, but so far, every time I’ve tried to manifest members they have come.  Upwards of 50 in a year multiple times... 16 regularly... In multiple lodges, as well as a DeMolay chapter…. 
 
Coach: What attracts candidates is not the problem.  You're descriptions are typical and par for most Freemasonic courses, most especially in the USA where most all Lodge activities are Making Members Centric.
 
Brother:  Exactly! The problem truly isn’t in getting good men to join, most all lodges have that process ingrained.  The problem is keeping them!

Coach: That's a great observation, my Brother.  However, the problem is not keeping them!  That's the challenge!  The problem is not knowing how!

Brother: Yes!

Coach: trouble is, once candidates' interest are satiated, you lose them. 

Brother:  Precisely!

Coach:
And you'd like to know how to keep them interest enough to continue attending?

Brother: Yes!

Coach:  I can't offer you any "How To:" on this.  

Brother: Well, why not?

Coach: Because each Lodge is a gathering of men with similar interest...

Brother: ... and because each gathering of men have selectively different interests that bring them together, there is no patent "How To:" that can be offered that can be applied to every situation.

Coach: I'm glad you took the ball and ran with it here.

Brother: It was easy once you set it up for me.  

Coach: Thanks!

Brother: So, Coach.  What Light can you offer that can more favorably position these "gatherings of men with common interests" to keep the group cohesive, supportive, and nurturing to the point where member want to come back for more?

Coach: Ah!  That's the question to ask!  Here are some thoughts and a list of things to consider should you desire to attract new members and keep them coming back:

THOUGHT:  

To have any group manifest and be cohesive, supportive, and nurturing to the point where member want to attend for more, you must...

ALWAYS ADDRESS THIS:  

Once satiated, interest wanes. 

What attracts members is... ???

To Address this question properly, you MUST Manifest PASSION in your Lodge activities at all times:

The Passionate Top Ten!

  • 10 - Know the difference between Desire & Passion!
    1. Desire is what a person seeks because they want it.
    2. Passion is what a person actively engages in seeking and willingly suffers to get because they must have it.
  • 9 - Find their Passion!
    1. When members know what is driving their interest, they are in control of directing their future actions.
    2. When all members know each member's Passion, they favorably position themselves to support their future efforts to assist each member.
  • 8 - Ask them about their Passion! 
  1. The more members know about what drives any one member, the better they can support him in having him pursue it.
  •  7 - Encourage them to Pursue their Passion!
  1. When members continually and gently remind other members of their Passions, they better assist in keeping each member mindful of what he truly wants.
  2. Genuine encouragement is seen as supportive and everyone wants sincere support.
  • 6 - Educate them in their Passion!
  1. Educated seekers make much better choices in their pursuits.
  2. Better choices make for more successful results
  • 5 - Support their Passion!
  1. When each member realizes that the support he receives from their Lodge involvement for his pursuits is superior to any other support system, or at the least complementary to it, he will seek more involvement.
  • 4 - Make meetings about there Passion!
  1. No one likes coming to meaningless meetings.
  2. Meaningless meetings drive members away.
  3. When meetings have great meaning to members pursuits, attendance becomes a necessity.
  • 3 - Make meetings satiating to a point where there's hope for more!
  1. Where there's hope, there's life (and attendance!)
  2. When support for a member's Passion is provided and more is provided each time, each member is internally driven to attend.
  3. Always end with the hope for more of the same for what a member originally came for.
  4. Members come for something; never leave any member hopeless in what they came for!
  • 2 - Don't assume your Passion is theirs! 
  1. Everyone has their own Passions.
  2. Sometimes we find others who have the same or similar Passions.
  3. It is crucial to the harmony of any relationship that you know your Passions and how they differ from those of other members.
  • 1 - Don't let any one's Passion pain others, ever!
  1. When we revisit what Passions are, we come to understand that no other person should suffer for what another must have.  This is the entire basis behind out circumscription and subduing.
  2. When you pursue your Passion, assure nothing you pursue makes others suffer as well, and visa versa.
  3. When any Lodge narrowly focuses its Passion support, only those with that Passion will attend. Every other member will pursue his Passions elsewhere.

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The Most Important Questions to Consider
before you Pursue Improving Attendance:

How well does your Lodge address these Passionate Issues?

Your Lodge attendance lets you know.

How well do you know your Brothers' Passions? 

When you don't know,
you're sending a strong message
of disinterest to your Brothers!

What does not knowing your Brothers' Passions
tell them about your interest in their interests? 

You will not begin to improve Lodge attendance
when you have not paid attention
to your Brothers' interests.